Sharing my heart.
Friday, 3 November 2023
GOOD OR BAD PEOPLE
Monday, 23 October 2023
TRANSITIONS II
Friday, 6 October 2023
TRANSITIONS
Thursday, 24 August 2023
The man behind the mask
Hello people,
It's so good to write and share content on this space as I pondered on things happening around me, I wondered on which of them I wanted to write about. Then a senior friend of mine Dr. Funmi Owolabi shared this beautiful piece with me and I felt it was apt to share her musings with us. For me it was a question of how authentic I need to be.
Enjoy reading!!!
There's this book titled 'The Man in the Mirror'.I bought a copy because of its title and it sure is a great read! I was attracted to this title at first glance because I thought it might have something on transparency. I was right!The mirror reveals-the good,bad and ugly.There's the eternal mirror, God's word, that reveals all about us-our origin, and where we are. It's a good thing to stand before the mirror but there's a paradigm shift nowadays.We have replaced the mirror with the mask!The mask covers up imperfections and gives power to those behind it to reveal or hide the truth about them.I think that some of our relationships are masked up-there really isn't that sincerity and transparency that characterize authentic relationships therein.The other day,I asked a friend about his wife and he answered by reeling out the wife's progress in her educational endeavours.Hmm! I mentally filed that one for further reflections. These are times when people define you by your status- education,wealth, popularity e.t.c.We also define ourselves by our statuses. But who cares about the fact that you might really, really be struggling with important issues of life such as faithfulness in marriage, financial integrity,or Christian maturity, you name it?Not too many people care about these real issues of life these days.So,we mask up and life has become phony.
I am learning to take off my masks, whether those I created or those given to me by circumstances or by people.I am learning to go back to the Mirror which is God's word and define myself by its standards.I am learning to recognize my weaknesses and to receive grace in the face of my weaknesses.I am also learning to truly care for people by asking 'how are you doing today?' and to pause for their feedback.May the Lord continue to help us to become real, authentic people who constantly stand before His mirror.These are the very ones that our world is hungry for, don't you think?
Friday, 4 August 2023
AGING
For me the concept of aging rubs off on me differently at different times. I have had times where the thought of aging has scared me to my insides because I fear what it means to age and not have some basic things in my life, like a home to call my own and at other times it is seeing those who have aged and are sickly and I ask myself, does old age connote ill health? The most worrisome for me is the fact that as people age, many feel the need to do what pleases them, because I guess, time may not be on their side, they have attained to a certain degree that no one may necessarily be able to hold them accountable for their actions. This is because the assumption is that you are old enough to know the right thing to do. These actions can mar the people around the older person and make them lose faith in God, relationships, and vital values. This for me is the scariest place to be.
I desire for myself that as I age, I will be a better version of who I was yesterday. I will be more graceful in handling the people around me. I will not take advantage of my age to do as I please, whether or not it will hurt the people I love the most. I will be considerate of the feelings of others. I will have my needs met in old age and be the best version of who I am meant to be. SO, HELP ME GOD. AMEN.
Thursday, 13 July 2023
NIGERIA CAN ACTUALLY WORK
Nigeria can actually work.
So here I am in a private hospital waiting to see the Pediatrician. We just got registered and had to wait 30 minutes in the lobby for him to come ( I even begin to complain to my husband that he's taking time probably because he is coming from a public hospital). He walks in and I realise the same person I had met in the public hospital barely 2 weeks ago was the same person was meeting in a private hospital and the treatment was different.
I was being spoken to politely.
I'm told what is wrong with my kid, but when I was in the public hospitals two weeks ago he sparsely spoke to me, he mostly wrote.
The kind of drugs we were given.
It was just different ...
So here I am left wondering, what is going on different work environments (the public and the private spaces).
What is required in the public space is different from the private space.
The work load even on our public servants is overwhelming, it affects they way they handle us.
Our public spaces aren't palatable for people to go, they often leave feeling treated like trash.
I think that we need to organise this nation make things work in both the public and private sectors. The standards of what is expected of people should be high and the same in both sectors. This is the only way we can grow as a nation.
Friday, 2 June 2017
YOUR STEADFAST LOVE ENDURES
The songwriter once sang: Your steadfast love endures to the heavens, your faithfulness reaches to the skies... I think I now understand those lines. As I interact with people I have realized that my endurance level with any man/woman is very limited. We may have struck an excellent friendship from the moment we first met or it developed over time. Whatever the scenario, I have understood that as time goes on and either distance or human frailties set in our patience begins to wear thin. Those exciting feelings we had towards this individual when that chord of friendship first struck begins to fade away. We begin to see clearly that no one is perfect and then we make the choice whether to continue this path of friendship or to go out separate ways. We then begin to see how limited we are as humans to endure with anyone for a lifetime. On the other hand is God Almighty, who created us. One would think, He is Almighty, He loses nothing whether or not He is in a relationship with any man because He is sufficient in Himself but He stoops to relate with each man/woman He creates and follows us daily, steadfastly till He gets our attention. He works at pruning us (though the changes in our lives are dependent on our cooperation with Him) to look more like Him. For me the character of God that will forever amaze and blow my mind is His steadfastness. I give up on my fellow human especially when those inconsistencies begin to surface but He doesn't. He follows us till we take our dying breath. What better show of love? Truly, Your love indeed extends to the heavens...